Parenting challenges don’t stop just because your child has become an adult. Below are some of the most common challenges that parents face once their child reaches adulthood (ages 22+):

• Differences in opinion – Even though your child is now an adult, they’ll always be your baby, and you may feel like you should continue sharing your opinion about all aspects of their life. Unfortunately, when parents continually criticize their child’s decisions regarding jobs, partners, children, and hobbies, it can lead to tension and sometimes even estrangement. Certain issues should still be addressed—for example, abuse and addiction—but otherwise, you may want to consider keeping your opinions to yourself and supporting their choices.
• Childcare expectations – Many children assume that once they have their own kids, their parents will take on all of the babysitting responsibilities. If you’re on board with that, great! But if you don’t want to commit to regular childcare, kindly communicate that ahead of time to avoid resentment and scheduling conflicts later on.
• Maintaining connection – This is a challenge commonly faced by parents whose children have moved to another city or state, or even to another country. If regular trips aren’t feasible, try to look for other ways to connect with your kids and grandkids. For instance, rather than simply talking on the phone, try videochatting. And if your grandkids have a hard time focusing on the call, you can incorporate a game like Pictionary or charades.

Customized Parenting Tips for Your Adult Child

Effectively parenting an adult child can be difficult, to say the least, but you’re not alone. If you’d like to speak with a therapist about the challenges you’re facing and receive personalized parenting tips, contact us today. We’ll gladly schedule a therapy session at a date and time that fits into your schedule.

Raising kids is one of the toughest jobs on the planet. You do everything you can to make sure they stay safe and healthy. And then a study comes out that states that happy kids grow up to be more successful adults. (Great, so now they have to be happy as well!).

It turns out that happiness is a big advantage in the real world. According to the study, happy people are more likely to earn a college degree, land a good job with better pay, and get promoted more quickly than unhappy people.

So how exactly can you help your teen transform into a happy and successful adult?

Build Resilience

Part of being happy comes from knowing your own resilience; knowing that when life knocks you down, you’ll get right back up. Resilience isn’t a latent talent, but a skill that can be developed.

You can help your child build resilience by teaching them how to put things into perspective. Being able to face challenges and adapt to constant change means recognizing the significance, or insignificance, of life events. Teach your kids not to sweat the small stuff and choose their battles wisely.

Instill Productivity

Feelings of accomplishment naturally lead to happiness. We feel good about ourselves when we are productive individuals. You can instill productivity in your child by helping them make decisions on their own over time. The more autonomy an individual has, the more able they are to get things done.

It’s also important that you help your teen discover their interests, talents and abilities. People that known their passions and what makes them tick have a knack for reaching goals.

Encourage Independence

It may seem counterintuitive, but teenagers cannot gain independence on their own. They simply don’t have the perspective or experience necessary to separate from you. Independence is actually a gift you give to your children. You can help your teen become more independent by:

• Teaching responsibility – Help your kid have a clear understanding of what is expected of them at home and at school as well as the consequences for not fulfilling those expectations.
• Demand Accountability – Make sure you stick to your guns and see those consequences through to the end. If you don’t hold your child accountable for their own behavior and actions, how will they be able to hold themselves accountable as adults?
• Practice letting go – It’s important not to send mixed signals to your teen during this time. As you help them become more independent, practice letting them go. Be open to stepping back as they step forward.

You and your teenager are embarking on an exciting journey; one with many ups and downs. The best thing you can do is to let your kid know you are there for them and that they can talk to you about anything. Good communication is crucial during this time.

If you could use some help talking with your teenager, consider family therapy. A therapist can facilitate effective communication and offer tools that will help your teen become the adult they are meant to be.

If you’d like to explore therapy, please be in touch. I’d be happy to discuss how I might be able to help you.