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    6 Signs You May Be in an Abusive Relationship

    July 6, 2025

    Abuse in relationships often begins as a whisper before growing to a roar. Over time, control, fear, and emotional harm escalate, leaving individuals unsure if what they’re experiencing is abuse. If something feels wrong but you can’t quite name it, you may be experiencing a form of abuse. Recognizing the signs is a critical first […]

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    6 Signs You May Be in an Abusive Relationship

    July 6, 2025

    Abuse in relationships often begins as a whisper before growing to a roar. Over time, control, fear, and emotional harm escalate, leaving individuals unsure if what they’re experiencing is abuse. If something feels wrong but you can’t quite name it, you may be experiencing a form of abuse. Recognizing the signs is a critical first step toward protecting yourself. If you are not in immediate danger, relationship counseling may be in order; however, not every relationship can be saved. 

    Abusive Relationships Take Many Forms

    Abuse doesn’t always involve physical violence. Emotional manipulation, threats, isolation, and financial control are also forms of abuse. It’s important to trust your instincts and pay attention to patterns that leave you feeling unsafe, diminished, or trapped. Six common signs of an abusive relationship include: 

    1. Constant criticism, belittling, or attempts to make you feel worthless 

    2. Isolation from family, friends, or support networks 

    3. Control over finances, schedules, or major decisions 

    4. Threats of harm to you, themselves, or loved ones 

    5. Unpredictable anger or emotional outbursts followed by blame 

    6. Gaslighting or denying your reality to make you question your sanity 

    If you see yourself in these patterns, know that you are not alone—and you deserve better. Relationship therapy, either by yourself or with your partner, can help you explore your experiences and determine a plan for moving forward. Reaching out may feel scary, but it is a powerful step toward reclaiming your independence and peace of mind. 

    We’re Here for You

    Whether you’re still deciding what to do or ready to take action, therapy can give you the clarity, strength, and tools you need to move forward. Let us support you! Schedule a consultation today to explore therapy options at our practice, including relationship therapy, and don’t second-guess yourself any longer. 

    Filed Under: abuse, relationship issues, relationships, toxic relationship

    Things to Discuss Before Marriage

    June 13, 2025

    “I do.” Two simple enough words. And when you say them on your wedding day, you really mean them. But “I do” can quickly turn into, “I thought I could” when you don’t know exactly who or what you are committing to. Let’s face it, relationships are tricky and it’s important that you and your partner […]

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    Things to Discuss Before Marriage

    June 13, 2025

    “I do.” Two simple enough words. And when you say them on your wedding day, you really mean them. But “I do” can quickly turn into, “I thought I could” when you don’t know exactly who or what you are committing to.

    Let’s face it, relationships are tricky and it’s important that you and your partner are 100% open and honest with one another before tying the knot. And that’s exactly why premarital counseling is so beneficial.

    Premarital counseling helps couples identify and address potential areas of conflict before those issues have a chance to turn into serious problems. Couples also learn effective communication skills and conflict resolution strategies.

    Here are some specific benefits of premarital counseling:

    Learn More About Each Other

    We always think we know our partner until they do or say something that surprises (and irks) us. Premarital counseling is an opportunity to get to know each other on a deeper, more intimate level. 

    Confront Challenges Head-On

    Couples don’t always discuss potential areas of friction at the beginning. And then real life comes at them and arguments happen. 

    For instance, what do you do if you find out each one of you has a different opinion about how finances should be handled? If one of you wants to home school but the other wants your kid to go to public schools?

    Premarital counseling offers couples a space to identify potential challenges head-on.

    Make Plans for the Future

    The brightest futures are the ones with the best-laid plans. Couples counseling can help you create a clear vision of what you want your future to be. A counselor can help you both discuss your individual goals and dreams and how you can combine these to create a future where both of you reach your potential as individuals, as a couple, and eventually as a family unit.

    If you and your partner would be interested in exploring premarital counseling, please reach out to me. I’d be more than happy to discuss how I may be able to help.

    SOURCES

    • https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/modes/premarital-counseling
    • https://allintherapyclinic.com/what-is-premarital-counseling/
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-connected-life/201706/do-you-really-need-premarital-counseling

    Filed Under: marriage, relationships

    Nurturing Positive Relationships

    June 4, 2025

    No matter how independent you may be, it’s still important to build healthy relationships with your immediate and extended family members, friends, and coworkers. Research suggests that when we foster connections with those around us, it can: Improve our self-esteem Make us more cooperative, empathetic, and trusting Strengthen our immune systems Extend our lives Reduce […]

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    Nurturing Positive Relationships

    June 4, 2025

    No matter how independent you may be, it’s still important to build healthy relationships with your immediate and extended family members, friends, and coworkers. Research suggests that when we foster connections with those around us, it can:

    • Improve our self-esteem
    • Make us more cooperative, empathetic, and trusting
    • Strengthen our immune systems
    • Extend our lives
    • Reduce our risk of developing anxiety and depression

    How to Build Healthy Relationships

    Different types of relationships require different approaches. For instance, you should likely treat your coworkers differently than your immediate family members. With that said, taking the following steps may help you to nurture positive relationships with many people in your life:

    • Use healthy communication skills, such as talking through issues (rather than letting them fester) and actively listening to the other person.
    • Find ways to express that you appreciate the other person’s efforts.
    • Follow through on your promises.
    • Be sensitive to the other person’s emotions and treat them with compassion, especially when they’re going through a difficult time.
    • Remain open-minded and avoid jumping to conclusions.
    • Set aside time to spend with the other person that’s free of distractions.
    • When a problem arises, take responsibility for your role in it and sincerely apologize (and forgive the other person for whatever they may have done to contribute to the issue).

    Start Improving Your Relationships

    As noted above, it’s important to have healthy relationships in your life, so if you need help fostering connections, contact us today. We’ll gladly tell you more about our practice, answer your questions, and schedule a therapy session.

    Filed Under: relationships

    How to Tell Someone Your Boundaries

    September 7, 2024

    So, you’ve decided that it’s time to set some boundaries in your life. Good for you! Boundaries are essential to maintaining relationships with friends, family members, and coworkers, as they can help build trust and respect. Once you’ve decided what your boundaries are, the next step will be communicating them to those around you. Here […]

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    How to Tell Someone Your Boundaries

    September 7, 2024

    So, you’ve decided that it’s time to set some boundaries in your life. Good for you! Boundaries are essential to maintaining relationships with friends, family members, and coworkers, as they can help build trust and respect. Once you’ve decided what your boundaries are, the next step will be communicating them to those around you. Here are some tips for how to do so:

    • Be clear. Explain exactly what you expect so that there’s no room for misinterpretation. For example, if you don’t want to work evenings, say, “I’m available between 9 a.m. and 6 p.m.” rather than “I can’t work late,” since “late” can mean different things to different people.
    • Establish consequences. Explain what will happen if your boundary is crossed. For instance, if your child regularly yells, say, “If you raise your voice while we’re having a conversation, I will leave the room until you calm down.” And most importantly, follow through on those consequences.
    • Use the sandwich method. If you’re concerned about how the other person will react, try sandwiching your boundary between two positive statements. For example, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by how frequently your sister calls, you could say, “I love our chats, but I’ve been so busy with this new job that I’m not able to talk each night. Can we schedule a time each week to catch up?”

    Do You Struggle to Set Boundaries?

    Setting and communicating boundaries can be difficult, but it’s a lot easier with the help of an experienced therapist. Fortunately, you can get the assistance you need from the caring team at our practice. We understand the intricacies of relationships between family members, friends, coworkers, and other acquaintances, and we’ll provide you with tailored advice on how to effectively set any necessary boundaries. Contact us today to schedule a therapy session at a date and time that’s convenient for you.

    Filed Under: communication, relationships

    Nurturing Positive Relationships With Friends

    March 22, 2024

    The importance of having positive friendships in your life cannot be overstated. Healthy friendships can help you feel happier and more self-confident, reduce your stress levels, and prevent you from feeling lonely or isolated. When times are good, friends can help you celebrate. And when times are bad, they can help pick you up and […]

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    Nurturing Positive Relationships With Friends

    March 22, 2024

    The importance of having positive friendships in your life cannot be overstated. Healthy friendships can help you feel happier and more self-confident, reduce your stress levels, and prevent you from feeling lonely or isolated. When times are good, friends can help you celebrate. And when times are bad, they can help pick you up and provide a kind shoulder to lean on.

     

    Unfortunately, for many adults, it can be tough to make new friends and even more difficult to ensure that those friendships enhance their lives. With that in mind, here are some tips for how to build healthy relationships with friends:

     

    • Be an active listener. Communication is key to a positive friendship, but many of us aren’t great at listening, which can leave our friends feeling ignored and unvalued. When talking with friends, make an effort to face them, focus on what they’re saying, and ask follow-up questions. You should also avoid interrupting them and zoning out as you plan what to say next.
    • Offer advice without judgment. At some point throughout the course of your relationship, your friend will likely come to you for help with a problem. While you should be honest about how you feel, you should also try to empathize with them and respect that that might have a different opinion.
    • Make time for each other. In today’s busy world, it can often be difficult to schedule time with friends, but getting together is crucial. If you live near each other, pencil in a weekly dinner or even a monthly coffee date. Or, if you live far apart, plan a time to talk on the phone or, better yet, videochat.

     

    Start Building Healthy Relationships With Friends

     

    If you struggle to maintain positive friendships, you’ve come to the right place. We have extensive experience helping patients nurture healthy relationships with friends, and we’d love to do the same for you. Contact us today to schedule a therapy session.

    Filed Under: friendship, relationships

    Coping With Grief After Losing a Marriage, Engagement, or Dating Relationship

    March 15, 2024

    Have you recently gone through a divorce, a broken engagement, or a breakup? The loss of a romantic relationship can be especially difficult because we spend so much time with our significant others, so a separation can impact many aspects of our lives and leave us feeling like our world has been turned upside down. […]

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    Coping With Grief After Losing a Marriage, Engagement, or Dating Relationship

    March 15, 2024

    Have you recently gone through a divorce, a broken engagement, or a breakup? The loss of a romantic relationship can be especially difficult because we spend so much time with our significant others, so a separation can impact many aspects of our lives and leave us feeling like our world has been turned upside down. Not only do we have to cope with missing them, but we also have to deal with the hassles of splitting up any shared property and possibly finding a new home. Plus, we must accept that the dreams we had of a future with that person are no longer a possibility.

     

    Fortunately, there are steps you can take to process your grief and move on from your relationship. For instance, you may want to try:

     

    • Spending time with family and friends
    • Talking to a therapist
    • Making time for self-care each day
    • Incorporating exercise into your daily routine
    • Starting a new hobby

     

    As difficult as it may seem, try to look at your breakup as an opportunity to rediscover yourself and the things that make you who you are. For example, if you’ve always loved baking but you didn’t get to bake as often as you wanted during your relationship, try purchasing a new cookbook or signing up for a local cake decorating class.

     

    Do You Need Help Healing From Loss?

     

    If you’re having a hard time coping with the loss of a marriage, engagement, or dating relationship, one of the best ways to process your grief is to speak to a therapist. Contact us today and we can tell you more about our practice, answer any questions you might have, and schedule a therapy session.

    Filed Under: loss, relationships

    How to Know You’re Dealing with a Narcissist

    February 26, 2024

    We all believe we know what narcissism looks like. After all, aren’t a majority of politicians and Hollywood A-listers narcissists, projecting their massive egos onto the world?   While that may be true, narcissists come in all shapes and sizes. They walk among us, some of them obvious, and some of them covert.   So […]

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    How to Know You’re Dealing with a Narcissist

    February 26, 2024

    We all believe we know what narcissism looks like. After all, aren’t a majority of politicians and Hollywood A-listers narcissists, projecting their massive egos onto the world?

     

    While that may be true, narcissists come in all shapes and sizes. They walk among us, some of them obvious, and some of them covert.

     

    So how can you tell if you’re dealing with an actual narcissist or just someone who is a bit full of themself? Here are a handful of traits the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-V) lists as characteristics that someone is a narcissist:

     

    A Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance

     

    Narcissists see themselves as incredibly essential to the success and happiness of other people. In their eyes, they believe they are capable of exceptionally high levels of achievement, whether they are or aren’t in reality.

     

    They are Special or Unique

     

    Narcissists believe they are so special and unique that few people can really understand them. Many will only want to spend time around high-status people.

     

    A Need for Admiration

     

    We all can admit it feels good to be appreciated and admired. But narcissists have an absolute need for admiration and a lot of it.

     

    A Sense of Entitlement

     

    Narcissists truly believe they are the exception to the rule. If there is a line of people waiting to be seated, a narcissist will cut that line because why should they of all people be forced to wait? If you’ve spent any amount of time around an actual narcissist, their entitlement can be shocking as it seems to know no bounds.

     

    A Lack of Empathy

     

    Narcissist simply cannot imagine how others feel. They are wired differently from non-narcissistic people. When you can’t empathize or feel what someone else is, it makes it incredibly easy to abuse those around you.

     

    These are just some of the main traits of a narcissist. Needless to say, spending any amount of time in their presence can be a very toxic and taxing experience.

     

     

    SOURCES:

     

    https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/14-signs-of-narcissism

     

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/202110/the-13-traits-narcissist

     

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder

    Filed Under: narcissist, relationships

    Learning How to Detach From Negative Thoughts

    May 3, 2023

    Detachment   When we hear the word detached, we might immediately think of the negative connotation – someone who is not engaged in their life or with the world around them, unfeeling and cold, cut off from their emotions and from others. None of that sounds particularly healthy. But learning to use detachment effectively and […]

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    Learning How to Detach From Negative Thoughts

    May 3, 2023

    Detachment

     

    When we hear the word detached, we might immediately think of the negative connotation – someone who is not engaged in their life or with the world around them, unfeeling and cold, cut off from their emotions and from others. None of that sounds particularly healthy. But learning to use detachment effectively and intentionally can bring about positive change.

     

    There are infinite possibilities when it comes to situations in which detachment could be beneficial. Here are a few areas to consider:

     

    Detachment from unhelpful thoughts

    The mind is constantly doing its job – thinking. In fact, we experience 80-90,000 thoughts each day. We usually assume each of these thoughts is useful and true, but our thoughts are not facts. Often, what we think is not worth paying attention to at all.

    For example, imagine you reach out to an old friend and are waiting to hear back. Your mind might start having unhelpful thoughts:

    ‘They probably don’t want to hear from me’

    ‘No one ever wants to be my friend’

    ‘I shouldn’t have contacted them after so long’

    None of these thoughts are facts, nor are they helpful in the moment. If you allow them to continue as usual, it becomes easy to attach to them and start to believe them.

    Learning to detach from our thoughts in the moment starts with being more aware of what is happening in our mind. Begin to recognize your thoughts and decide if they are helpful and truthful. If not, try observing them without putting any value on them. Try using the phrase ‘My thoughts are telling me ___’ before the thought. Remind yourself ‘that is just a thought and thoughts are not facts.’ Another strategy involves imagery. Imagine your thoughts coming and going, drifting in and out of your mind, like watching clouds drift across the sky. Meditation is also an effective way to practice detachment from thoughts because it teaches us to stop paying attention to our thoughts in the moment.

     

    Detachment from an outcome

    When we care about something, attachment is natural. If you interview for your dream job, you will likely experience strong emotions about it and focus your thoughts on how much you want the job. The more we care about something, the more we want to control the outcome. So, it can feel counterintuitive to work on detaching in these situations. While attachment is natural, it is not always helpful, because we cannot control what happens. When we try to control, or make something happen, we will inevitably face resistance when things do not work out as we hoped. Resistance makes things more difficult. If you do not get the job offer and you were attached to the idea, you will likely have a much more difficult time accepting the outcome. Using detachment, we can acknowledge how we are feeling (how desperately we want the job), while also letting go of the desire to control the outcome. This involves an intention to trust that we can handle whatever outcome we face. Focusing on trusting ourselves to cope with the things we cannot control allows us to let go of unhelpful attachment to outcome.

     

    Detachment from a difficult situation as it is happening

    What can we do when we are in the middle of a situation and our thoughts and emotions are interfering with our ability tomake sound decisions? You guessed it- detach. For example, if we are in an argument with our spouse, we will likely feel triggered in some way. Maybe our body is in fight or flight, maybe we feel anger and want to lash out, or want to shut down and give the silent treatment.

    If we act on any of these impulses, we are not acting in a way that is beneficial to ourselves or the relationship. Detaching from the situation can give us time to calm our nervous system and get centered, to process our emotions, and consider how we want to respond. Communicating the need to detach and takingtime alone to reflect before continuing a discussion can lead to a much better outcome.

     

    Detachment from codependent patterns

    Many of us find ourselves in codependent patterns in our relationships. Codependency causes us to be more focused on the needs of others than on ourselves, and underneath this we believe we can control the problem (or person) – and need to in order to be safe. This is often the case in relationships with someone who has an addiction or other mental illness. When our loved one is engaging in behavior that is harmful, we want to be able to stop the behavior, and try to control it as a result. This can take on many forms, including obsessing about it, worrying, monitoring/managing the other person, changing our own behavior, and ignoring our own needs.

    One of the easiest ways to step out of this pattern is through practicing detachment: shifting our beliefs to accept we cannot control another person, and it is not our job to try. The addiction recovery field has been teaching the concept of ‘detaching with love’ for decades (Beattie, 1992).

    We can begin to accept the premise of detachment by learning to focus on our own needs. When you find yourself focused on the other person: – their behavior, emotions, or needs – bring focus back to yourself. Ask yourself ‘What am I feeling and why?What do I need most right now?’ Then, do something to take care of yourself based on those needs.

    As with most change, this will likely feel uncomfortable at first. With practice, detaching with love and focusing on yourself will become easier.

     

    Learning to detach with intention and purpose is a process that takes time. A trained mental health professional can provide support and guidance for adopting these concepts in a way that benefits you as an individual.

     

    -Laura Gross, LMSW

    Laura Gross is a Clinical Therapist with Marsh Psychology Group

    You can contact her at:

    (248)860-2024

    lgross@marshpsychologygroup.com

    Beattie, M. (1992). Codependent No More. Center City, Minnesota: Hazelden.

     

     

     

     

    Filed Under: Anxiety, coping, relationships

    How to Manage Working from Home with Your Partner

    September 14, 2022

    More and more people are opting to work from home. While this has its advantages, it definitely has its challenges as well. Particularly when your partner also works from home.   The following are some tips to help you and your partner share a successful and harmonious dwelling while both working remotely:   Give Each […]

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    How to Manage Working from Home with Your Partner

    September 14, 2022

    More and more people are opting to work from home. While this has its advantages, it definitely has its challenges as well. Particularly when your partner also works from home.

     

    The following are some tips to help you and your partner share a successful and harmonious dwelling while both working remotely:

     

    Give Each Other Space

     

    You might be tempted to spend every moment together now that you are both home all day. While some couples may be able to pull this off, it’s generally not a good idea to be on top of each other during your work day. For instance, if you partner is at the dining room table on their laptop, it might be a good idea for you to retreat to a spare bedroom with yours. It’s easier for most people to focus and get important work done when they have space and privacy.

     

    Respect Each Other’s Timetable

     

    Remote work often means you can set your own schedule. You may want to get up early and get right to work, while your partner may get more accomplished in the evening hours. As long as you both contribute to household and family chores, be sure to give each other permission to work at the times that suit you best.

     

    Have Open and Clear Communication

     

    There’s a very good chance that neither of you are mind readers. It’s for this reason that you’ve got to be clear about your needs. For instance, if you have an important Zoom call in the afternoon, be sure to let your partner know that you will need quiet and not to be interrupted between such-and-such hours. You might want to consider getting a dry erase board so you both can share any important information from day-to-day.

     

    It won’t necessarily be easy, and it may take some getting used to… but with some consideration for each other’s needs, working from home together may turn out to be a very enjoyable experience!

     

    SOURCES:

     

    https://www.gq.com/story/we-can-work-from-home

     

    https://remote.co/couples-who-both-work-from-home/

     

    https://medium.com/swlh/how-to-avoid-killing-your-partner-when-you-both-work-from-home-6fb3506f996

    Filed Under: relationships, working from home

    The Importance of Independence in a Relationship

    June 15, 2022

    When we first fall in love with that special someone, we want to spend all of our time together. In fact, we seem to feel better when we are with our significant other.   This is the infatuation stage, and admittedly, it feels really good. But enduring relationships move past this stage and into a […]

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    The Importance of Independence in a Relationship

    June 15, 2022

    When we first fall in love with that special someone, we want to spend all of our time together. In fact, we seem to feel better when we are with our significant other.

     

    This is the infatuation stage, and admittedly, it feels really good. But enduring relationships move past this stage and into a place of mutual respect and care. This will require each partner to give the other space to be their own individuals.

     

    Why Individuality and Independence are Important in Relationships

     

    First, what does it really mean to be an independent individual? It means you know how to be your own person, whether you are single or in a relationship. It means while you make the effort to make your partner happy, you also ensure that you continue to do the things you enjoy that bring you happiness.

     

    The following are just some of the reasons why there should always be independence in a relationship:

     

    No One Likes Clingy

     

    When you lack independence and don’t have a solid sense of yourself, you can come across as “clingy” or needy. If you want to be around your partner 24/7 and they are wanting space, your neediness can drain their energy.

     

    Mutual Growth

     

    When the two of you stay independent, you give each other the opportunity to grow as individuals, which then can lead to growth as a couple.

     

    Mutual Support

     

    Independent people are strong people, and strong people can be counted on when it matters most. When you are both strong individuals, you can lend that support when the other needs it.

     

    Need Help Getting Your Independent Spirit Back?

     

    Most of us demanded our independence when we were in our teens and early 20s. But life happens, and we can often lose that independent spirit and lose our own identities. If you need some help reconnecting with yourself so that you may one day enjoy a beneficial partnership, please get in touch with me. I’m more than happy to discuss how therapy can help.

     

    SOURCES:

     

    • https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/be-independent-in-a-relationship/
    • https://www.symbiosiscoaching.com/why-independence-is-important-in-a-relationship/
    • https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-being-independent-improves-your-long-term-relationship.html

    Filed Under: couples, relationships



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